Wednesday, February 20, 2013

How to Bless Your Children

{Sorry for all of the inserts and extras.  I don't know how to get them out of the outline!}

Ps. 145:4; Prov. 13:22; Mt. 18:1-14


Life Lesson:             Jesus values children greatly, so we should bless them intentionally.

Matthew 18:1-14 . . .

Jesus uses children as a model for our salvation (1-4).

Blessing or hurting children has great consequences (5-6).

Make haste to not hurt them (7-9).

Treat them very special – bless them (10-14).


1.                  Declare His wonders to your children (Ps. 71:17-18).

It’s the personalizing of what the Lord has done for us that really carried impact and weight with our kids.  When wisdom from the Bible can be paralleled with a parent’s personal testimony – it registers biblical truth for a child in a way that nothing else can.  Telling your family’s tribal stories to your kids makes the work of God active and alive to them and helps them recognize that His blessings are available today.  – Jack Hayford, Blessing Your Children

a)      Tell your children how the Lord saved you (Ex. 12:24-27).

b)      Tell your children about the Lord’s provision for you (Ex. 16:32).

c)      Tell your children how you’ve failed but the Lord forgave you (Nu. 16:38).

d)     Tell your children how God has guided you (Jo. 4:5-7).

e)      Tell your children how God has delivered you (Est. 9:26-28).

f)       Tell your children about God’s judgment and mercy (Joel 1:2-4).


2.         Speak blessings on your children (Prov. 18:21; Nu. 6:24-26).

We can bless through an arm over the shoulder, an embrace in a time of disappointment, a pat on the back, a whisper in the ear, a snug tucking in bed, or a kiss on the cheek.  However, the most affirming are spoken blessings.  Words that affirm and approve, words that compliment, words that speak love and affection, words that give hope and confidence, words that answer pain and disappointment with support and faith.  Life is transmitted through spoken blessings!


3.         Establish protective boundaries.

Know your children’s friends.                       
Be the “heavy” when necessary.
Monitor the entertainment.                            
Talk with your children.
Be the watchman over electronic devices.     
Sanctify them by God’s truth.

4.         Create a family culture marked by freedom and fun.

Create a family culture and environment that make home life and the family a sanctuary where children can grow up in Christ.  Make your home a haven and hub of ministry and activity.

5.         Teach them how to worship God and serve others.

            Parenting in the Pew: Guiding Your Children into the Joy of Worship by Robbie Castleman

Parents teach their children how to make beds, hit baseballs, figure fractions, and shop wisely.  How are we training our children to worship God?  James Dobson says the first seven years of a child’s life are “prime time” for this training.  He asks the following two questions of parents: Is your child learning to behave properly in church – to worship God?  Is he or she learning to honor the Lord’s Day as a day of worship and rest?  Teaching your children to worship, parenting in the pew, is entering the house of your heavenly Father and saying, “Daddy, I would like you to meet my children.”


6.         Practice Tom Elliff’s Ten Commandments of Parenting . . .  (taken from Letters to

Lovers: Wisdom for Every Season of Your Marriage by Tom and Jeannie Elliff)

The Prodigal Son (Lk. 15:11-32) as a story about one father’s love for his family.

1.         Don’t allow past disappointments to alter your present determination.

2.         Practice and teach the optimistic faith view that every problem can be solved by God and following His plan.

3.         Build into them a sense of godly principle.

4.         Set the standard for forgiving.

5.         Do not dwell on past mistakes.

6.         Go out of your way to ensure family harmony and unity.

7.         Make certain that you properly respond to proper behavior.

8.         Deal with your children according to their God-given personalities.

9.         Do not overlook golden opportunities to teach scriptural principles.

10.       Be home with them.

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